P.A.A.

Listen for the remarks insults, put down and misinformation about towards you.

This is a sign that your child is being put in the middle to ping-pong between you and the coercive person.

Best practice to not further alienate your child:

Is to defend and protect the false allegations.

It’s essential that you do the ‘opposite action.’

Remain calm and indifferent don’t feed what the coercive controls messaging by reacting. It will reinforce the false information.

As the safe parent . We need to learn how to stay calm and indifferent.

This models to your child that you are the safer person and you’re indifferent to false information. This is how you model self control and not controlling tactics.

The estranged-alienated child is dodging the underlying fear and uncertainty that they have being told about you. Model that safe adult won’t put their child in the middle or engage in behavior around high conflict individuals and or groups